Off Your Path?

Every soul enters the world with a purpose. The purpose is always to walk it’s path. Of course, the ultimate path is to know, “He is the Universe, and the whole universe is ONE.” This might take several births to achieve. Every soul in every birth has its own path: some soul would take birth to understand the complexity of emotions, love vs fear, mind, body, relationships, etc. Every soul has it’s own path to walk.

When a person is born he is equipped to live his life full of love, to be always in light and laughter. Right from the beginning we have been given tools to live peaceful, in harmony with ourselves and others, to live in abundance in all areas of life. These are the tools we are equipped with:

a) Mother’s Love:

People who have read Harry Potter...knows what I am talking about. In the book, Harry Potter’s mother had created a strong protection around Harry in such a way that it was impossible for the most powerful dark wizard to break it. Thus, protecting Harry all through his fights with dark wizards.

Same way right from the day one, when a soul is conceived in the womb of the mother, the soul will know whether it is conceived out of love, whether his mother loves him. The importance of mother’s love here is definitely much more since the soul is inside her womb. If the mother’s love is strong, powerful...the child will be spiritually, physically, mentally and emotionally be a healthy and a strong child. He will be able to gain strength from that love which is in built in him on his birth by his mother to face any obstruction he faces while on his path. It will also help him strength his willpower to get on his path...if he is off his path. 

b) Intuition:

Again, mother’s love is a tool given to a soul by an external person. So, sometimes it can be distorted. But, a soul is equipped with another most powerful tool which is called Intuition. The subset of Intuition is 6^th sense, telepathy, extra sensory, etc. Intuition is an in - built tool given to every soul. It is like a human in – built compass showing whether the soul’s in the right direction. Intuition will always nudge you in the right direction.

What you require is to know which tiny voice is your intuition and which are other’s voices. There might be times when you are not able to see...why it is nudging you to do a certain thing but, you would soon realize it. Whether you have decided to do what your intuition says or decided to do otherwise... you will soon come to know the domino effect of your decision. 

c) Angels and Guides

When a soul takes birth...it is assigned... it’s angels and guides...whom he can ask for help. Surely, there have been times when you are stuck somewhere and suddenly out of nowhere a stranger comes to your rescue. Angels and Guides not only aid you when you are in trouble but also, keep nudging, nagging you towards your path when you are off your path.

Do you many times feel that somebody is just pushing you to do a particular thing? Do you want to buy a car and you are confused between Corolla vs Honda City? And that particular day you keep seeing Honda City... Well, there’s your message to buy Honda City...

Similarly, if we are in trouble situation or off our path...our angels and guides will keep sending us signals, appropriate people, send us to places we would have never gone otherwise...to help us out...to bring us back to our Path. Just we need to recognize those signals.  

How do you know whether you are off your path? Here, are few signs by which you can understand that you are off your path:

1) You are always angry, frustrated, and bitter towards others, which only show that how angry, frustrated and bitter you are towards yourself...because you are not following what your heart says. 

2)   Your heart keeps breaking, people keep hurting you... you have an intuition that a certain person is saying something but is something else inside but, somewhere rather than standing by your intuition you get carried away by what that person is saying.

3) You keep walking the same beaten path...your angels are sending you messages by various means asking you to resign your current job and start your own firm but, you are very comfortable with your current job...and then after some months you get fired.

4) You are being too jumpy, restless, volatile lately...maybe you are aware of what your messages or intuition are telling you but you are finding it difficult to follow them.

5) You have a problem of addiction...harming yourself in any which ways clearly shows you are off your path.

There are many signs which shows you are off your path and there are double ways to bring you on your path.

Currently, I was off my path...and it took a lot of strength and willpower to do the right thing...to listen properly to my intuitions...to read my messages right... but, when I was on my path again...I felt: @ Peace, Blessed and In Love with Myself.

So, if you feel you are off your path and require a help to get back on your path...you can contact us:

DARSHA Gandhi Mehta
(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Past Life Regression Therapist; Colour & Aura Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

We Do Online & Phone Counselling Sessions

www.fudoltherapies.com

+(91) 9869660362; contact@fudoltherapies.com

Strengthen your Resilient Power towards Problems

Increase your strength from a rock to that of a mountain when a problem starts over powering you...

Challenges are there in everyone’s life...and all of us have the capability, potential and strength to solve the challenges in our life. Till challenges get endured, handled and solved...it makes one grow, and instills confidence in oneself.

The challenge turns into a problem when it is persisted for a long time, when you feel stuck, when you are not able to handle it, when it is continuously hurting you, when it is hampering your growth, your behaviour with people around you is changing, when you are not able to be yourself, when you break down every second day, when you have tried being aggressive, assertive, and submissive towards the challenge but, to vain.

Since, all of us have an inbuilt resilient power within us... we can bounce back from the stress of facing a particular challenge. But, when the challenge is persistent...one of the two things can happen: a) Resilient power gets exhausted or b) Resilient power strengthens.

When the resilient power gets exhausted that would result in an emotional and/or physical breakdown, chances of depression, suicidal feelings, or any other form of mental illness increases.

There are some people around you who can handle as many problems as life throws at them. Many times, one wonders what makes their resilient power stronger than yours. Let’s have a look:

Resilient Power strengthens if you have lived your childhood to its fullest i.e. you have played as much as you can, you have taken small to big challenges – immaterial whether you were able to solve that challenge or not, if as a child you had discovered certain talent, or used to play some sports, used to have friends, had got love, affection, constructive criticism, from elders around you...usually you will have a strong resilient strength as an adult. First 5 to 7 years of a child’s life, the child develops a foundation for a lot of things including the resilient power within themselves i.e. bouncing back from any failure, rejection, perseverance in face of a long unsolved problem, etc.

It helps if one’s childhood is good but, again it doesn’t mean that resilient power cannot be strengthen. Here are few ways resilient power can be strengthen:

When you are facing a certain problem... there are times your inner voice/ angels/god/subconscious will send you hints, signals, either to face that specific problem or either to change your stance or behaviour to that particular problem, or change a particular characteristic/ trait in you. But, we are so cluttered with pain, advices, expectations, “why me’s” that we don’t tend to listen to these small voices which we call intuition. Few ways we can remove the clutter so that we listen to our inner voices:

a) First and foremost remove your house clutter... that’s your environmental clutter. Remove all the unwanted things from your house.

b) Then remove all the emotional clutter... give yourself 2 days, isolate yourself and just filter all your thoughts. One way to do that is by writing down what you feeling i.e. any hurt, pain, any frustration. Or start to drawing - colour/paint. Do it for 2 days and see the clutter clear for you. If not try for another 2 days. 

c) Intuitions will keep coming on and off once the clutter is cleared from your mind and environment. Many times, since it’s a back thought one doesn’t seem to remember it. So keep a dairy and note down any intuit you receive.

 There will be times especially when you are dealing with problems which have lasted for a long time in your life that you will suffer, many times the problem will hit you in the stomach, many times you would feel that you can’t go forward till this problem gets solved. In short, the problem will overpower you, will not let you function well. Below is the technique you can try to make yourself stronger than the problem: 

a) Relax your body. Take 3 deep breaths and slowly, one by one... release the problem from your body right from your toe muscle to your thigh muscle to your facial muscle. For Example, the problem is Anxiety: After relaxing the body...tell your toe muscle to release all the anxiety from every cell of that part . Similarly, with your feet, legs, thigh, stomach, chest, fingers, hand, shoulders, neck, facial and head muscle. Do this exercise daily...initially, twice in a day and after 10 days once a day.

This above techniques will help you 10x your strength i.e. If before you were strong as a rock, you will gain 10 times strength and stand like a mountain when your problems seem to be overwhelming and overpowering you.

You want personalized attention on your long persistent problem and you want someone to talk to about your problem... then, you know how to contact FUDOL Therapies.          

  DARSHA Gandhi Mehta

(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Past Life Regression Therapist; Colour & Aura Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

We Do Online & Phone Counselling Sessions

www.fudoltherapies.com

+(91) 9869660362; contact@fudoltherapies.com

     

  

    

Marriage Healing

Marriage – continuous fights...can’t withstand a conversation

Marriage – can’t get intimate with each other on any levels

Marriage – requires compromises, sacrifices, toleration power

Marriage – now the magic, passion fades away after 5 years

Marriage – ego takes over heart

Marriage – both the partners are on different pages oops...different books

Marriage – getting difficult...

Marriage – a stale institution!

Like every failure... even the downfall or failure of marriage as an institute is also learning for an individual and a society as a whole. These are the things we as a society need to at least take into consideration:

    1)    The Cycle:

Along with other discrimination...world has continuously faced gender discrimination. When we had a patriarchal society, a woman was suppressed, abused, not respected – creating a “weak woman” concept which more than men, women took more advantage of it.

In this century, women are at the fore front in every field, giving tough competition to men. Somewhere the tables are turning and we are moving towards Matriarchal Society which is again an extreme.

What an awakened, educated society needs to understand is equality...equal respect, equal opportunities, equal justice, equal rights, equal duties, equal benefits should be given to all the living being without any discrimination. The cycle of favoring one gender should be stopped ...thus, breaking the cycle. Breaking this cycle will help today’s marriage tremendously.

In a marriage, there has to be openness as to... what responsibility (role wise) will be undertaken by each partner. If a husband wants to stay at home and do the house management, cooking and taking care of children...it should not be mocked upon. Similarly, if a wife wants to be a bread earner and wants to take up that task ... it should be respected.

It is a couple’s choice what task they choose to run their house and family.

     2) Education

We have let education just touch our intellectual self i.e. we have just become much more logical, intelligent, knowledgeable, competitive, practical, diplomatic, etc. resulting in Egoistic outlook which results in damaged relationship.

Once our Ego overpowers us...we stop listening to our Heart and turn a blind eye to the demand of our souls. Competition makes us so paranoid that we stop trusting people around us, because of our shallow ego’s we are not able to say “SORRY”.    

We crush our need of giving and receiving love; we can’t confront the other person if we have felt bad because “they should know” which creates misunderstanding, increasing the communication gap.

    3) Time

Well, there are so many new things to learn, explore and so much to do that I get tired... have no time for my husband/wife. It’s healthy to have the self - identity intact after marriage, having one’s own ambition and goals but, to not know what is happening in each other’s life, to not have same life goals or a common ground when it comes to household, children, finance, fun, pleasure, etc. will eventually lend us on different books all together.

If a couple is on the same book but different page it is much easier for the person ahead to slow down so that his/her partner can catch up. How will you rectify or reduce that gap when you both are on different books?

 

     4)    Foundation

If your first couple of years in marriage was full of love, care, laughter, passion, etc. it will take less time to heal the distance created during the years of marriage. You just need to give more time to your relationship, to your partner and rejuvenate all the good memories and start making new memories and it should work.

In couples, where there has been issues from the beginning and they haven’t had a full - fledged relationship...they need to work a lot harder. Visit a marriage counselor ..so that you and your partner’s issues are resolved. Work on your ego’s, start doing things together, start forming common goals in marriage, start appreciating each other more often. First it will take efforts then things will start moving in positive direction.

 Rejuvenate the magic in your marriage life...everyone is not a charmer, or a charismatic personality but, anyone can change a situation from dull, boring and monotonous to fun, dynamic, growing.

Stability and Growth are 2 sides of the same coin. Both should be present if a relationship has to flourish and not just survive.  

We @FUDOL Therapies conduct an intensive Integrative Therapy for Marriage Healing...it is our surety that you will go with rejuvenation and new power in your marriage after you undergo this intensive course. 

DARSHA Gandhi Mehta
(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Past Life Regression Therapist; Colour & Aura Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

We Do Online & Phone Counselling Sessions

www.fudoltherapies.com

+(91) 9869660362; contact@fudoltherapies.com

A line between EGO and SELF - RESPECT

I always used to feel that Ego should never enter into a relationship. Maybe, I still feel the same thing. But, somewhere sometimes that fine line between Ego and Self – Respect gets crossed...

Many of us go out of our way for people whom we love...thinking that’s the way it’s supposed to be. Maybe, but we forget to keep our expectations in check. We start expecting that the other person also should love you the same way....ouch! “Resulting in hurt”.

Many times we would give all the love we have in us to the person we love...maybe, that’s how it is supposed to be...giving that person our 100%. But, what if you are just at the giving end and there isn’t much receiving of Love happening...oops! Would the Love start getting “exhausted”?

Many times there is a feeling lurking at the back of your mind..."Why isn’t he (he/she) interested in listening to what I have to say?” But you ignore that feeling and keep living in that pretext that both of you are equally involved in the relationship. Is somewhere this feeling “crushing” your self – esteem?

You are always on the lookout for doing something special for that person. May be sometimes you write a love letter for him, other times you make a photo album for him, some other time you just give a rose and say how special he is for you. Do you wonder why there are no such attempts... to make you feel special, coming from the other end? Is it because he is not expressive? Do you somewhere doubt your “special” place in that person’s heart?

Has that happened many times that you only keep buzzing/pinging/calling that person? He hardly initiates the buzzing/pinging/calling you? Do you ignore that on the pretext that it’s okay I don’t want Ego to come in my relationship? But, are you really “okay”?

Does he always make you feel jealous by talking about other girls? Is it happening too often? Do you have that feeling that your “importance” in that relationship is lessened?

When in love, you always try to keep the other person’s problems, needs, smile ahead than your own? Do you feel that there are very rare occasions your problems, needs, smiles are kept into fore front? Are you left with the feeling of “taken for granted”?

If the answers to all the above questions are NO...then there is no need to read any further. If the answer is to any or all the above questions are YES...then let’s see why you end up feeling miserable within yourself, less important, taken for granted, not special, crushed, exhausted, etc.

Is the other person to be blamed for how you feel? How many days/months/years you have let these feelings lurk in your psyche and not addressed them properly? How many subtle hints given to you by that person was just ignored because you want to stay in a fairytale that say, “he will always be mine and I have every right to cling to him.” Are you unclear whether your love is unconditional or you require an equal amount of give­­­ n take in your relationships?  

The minute you make the other person more important in a relationship...you have crossed that fine line between Ego and Self – Respect.

It takes a lifetime or various births to learn how to Love unconditionally. So here, we are only talking of a relationship where both of them have expectations and the relationship is considered healthy with an equal amount of Give – Take from both the people involved. When there is an imbalance in this give – take that’s when these above feeling crops in. If not addressed properly it would, lead to communication gap, misunderstanding, doubts, manipulation, game playing, etc.

If in case, you have already confronted that person and still those feelings keep persisting than you need to take a back seat. Maybe, you aren’t giving him a chance to show his Love in his own way. Maybe, before he buzzes you, you have already buzzed him. Maybe, he is so overwhelmed by how special he is for you that it has never occurred to him that he also needs to reciprocate that feeling. So, take a back seat for sometime...till then take care of yourself, love yourself, groom yourself and see how it adds spice to your relationship.

If it backfires and he doesn’t respond the way described in the above paragraph then, you definitely deserve someone who loves you equally, who makes you feel special, who understands and respects your needs as much as he understands his.     

In one single line:

“A Relationship starts losing its charm when the other person becomes more important then you...”

@ FUDOL Therapies we are not saying we are an expert in relationships but we will definitely help you recognize and be your support when you are re – discovering your lost importance.

DARSHA Gandhi Mehta
(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Past Life Regression Therapist; Colour & Aura Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

We Do Online & Phone Counselling Sessions

www.fudoltherapies.com

+(91) 9869660362; contact@fudoltherapies.com

Abuse/Molestation/Rape

Is Abuse/Molestation/Rape a form of suppressed lust/sexual desires? Or A false attempt to feel powerful?

Does Abuse/Molestation/Rape happen because the beauty is shown in public? Or The devil inside human being wants to destroy anything which is beautiful?

Does Abuse/Molestation/Rape happen because it’s a form of entertainment for the culprit? Or There is so much over – flow of bitterness within that person that it’s a way of passing the bitterness to the other person?

Right from ancient days India has seen abuse, molestation, rape and other crimes happening against women. Why does a society like India where we pray to Goddess Lakshmi, Saraswati and Durga... have to wait for a “Maya” or “Damini/ Nirabhaya” to happen. It’s a well known fact, that Delhi has the highest amount of molestation cases. Even most part of the country girls/women can’t go out in the night. Why haven’t we sprung into action the moment we realized these facts.

I want to highlight a point here... that woman are not the only victims going through such crimes. Men equally has the risk of being a victim of abuse/molestation/rape. Sad part is such crime against men are not even taken into serious consideration.

Right now, the global community is in a dark tunnel from where we can see no light for any permanent solution to Abuse/Molestation/Rape.  Giving a capital punishment is necessary to instill fear and it will reduce Abuse/Molestation/Rape to a certain extend but it is not going to uproot the problem.

Let’s see few ways by which there are chances we could uproot the problem of Abuse/Molestation/Rape...

1)  Rape is one of the ways the miscreant wants to gain control. Overpowering the other person will definitely make him/her feel more powerful and in control for a while. Now, why there is so much need for control...there could be various reasons and one of the main reason is Severe Child Sexual/Physical Abuse. Abuse of any kind makes a child feel out of control, powerless and helpless. But, Severe Child Sexual/Physical Abuse impacts the psyche of a child deeply. Not everyone who is a victim of Abuse grows up and ends up Abusing/Molesting/Rapes the other human being. But, the chances are still high. The Child who has gone through any kind of Abuse should undergo some sessions of psychotherapy and counselling so that he/she can stitch himself/herself back and could understand that  "It wasn't his/her fault", "What happened was a crime".

2) Children have to be taught how to respect their bodies. Once they start respecting their bodies...they will automatically respect other people’s bodies. Accepting and understanding one’s body, and it’s desire will help in understanding that these needs and desires of the body is normal for every human being irrespective of the gender. Appreciating and Nourishing one’s body is very important but, in a constructive way. 

3) Parents have to respect each other. For ex: if a boy sees that his mother is never respected in the family, always ridiculed, mocked and condemned at... he would follow the same behaviour when he grows up with other females inside as well as outside the house. Parents are the only one with whom a child will learn his initial lessons of respecting and accepting every human being. 

4) We as society should be open about people suffering from any kind of sexual disorder/ dysfunction/ illness. Openness is required so that person suffering from it can talk and discuss about it freely. He/she should not feel less masculine/feminine just because he/she has some kind of sexual disorder.  

I understand that all these above points are difficult to achieve. But, our schools, our doctors, our pre – child/pregnancy programs, etc. can educate and create awareness among people. It’s a cycle we need to break and it will take time, effort and lot of awareness but again not impossible.

Love and Respect...if these 2 become the pillar and the foundation on which a child grows up... then only this problem of abuse/molestation/rape has any chance of uprooting itself from the psyche of us humans.

If you are a victim of Abuse/Molestation/Rape... FUDOL Therapies (Fillingupthedash-esoflife) will be your backbone while you stitch yourself back.     

DARSHA Gandhi Mehta
(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Past Life Regression Therapist; Colour & Aura Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

We Do Online & Phone Counselling Sessions

www.fudoltherapies.com

+(91) 9869660362; contact@fudoltherapies.com