Filling up the Dash - es Of Life: Young Adults Shield

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Our Precious Young Ones

Many say that today’s youth are irresponsible, live in their own world of technology, parties, drugs, drinks, can’t have long term relationships, etc.

I say, today’s youth are smart, highly talented, they want solutions to all their problem, can’t understand dilly – dally approach, they are not ready to compromise on what they set their minds on, they don’t feel guilty to tell their previous generations where they have been wrong, they know how to put their ego down but to maintain their self – respect, they are sensitive to other people’s feelings and needs but, would also never sacrifice their desires.

Yes, today’s Youth are different and so are their problems. The more we understand them and adapt to the new world our young ones are entering…the more we would be able to help the youth around the world to cope with its pressure.

If today’s youth are open about their choices, opinions, sexual preference, technologically advanced, likes partying, starts forming relationship very early in life…do you think this is a sudden change. It is a reaction to decades of suppression. For ex, the more you suppressed the spring, the more forcefully it will spring back. Our young ones are just voicing decades of desires and feelings that has not been voiced, they are just living the life we have always craved to live. Once, we understand that we would back our youth in their beliefs with conviction and guide them to constructively voice themselves. With our experience and our precious young one's raw and vibrant energy we can, not only change a family's old mindset but also, a society's and a nation's old mindset.

How much ever, we want to deny, our young ones are just reflecting our dreams, the life we always wanted to live, thoughts we always wanted to put into words, words which we always wanted to put into actions.

Today’s youth need to be in alignment with their thoughts – words – actions so that they can fulfil their soul’s dream on this earth. The more we want to raise our children, like our parent raised us…the more miserable we would become. The more we are open to the new world’s mindset, the more we would understand our young ones and help them to constructively mould their energies.

If the alignment of Thoughts - Words - Actions is not present in one's life, it can get difficult for any adult to be constructive. Here, we are talking about these sensitive and spiritual advanced youngster. Since, they are spiritually advanced they are much more sensitive to alignments, honesty, there is a high need in them to be individualistic and to be understood correctly. If they are not able to get that from their immediate environment, there are chances they would become destructive.

Generally, addiction takes place when there are empty spaces in one’s heart, when there is lot of anger especially towards parent or parent – figure. If your teenager or young adult is addicted to video games, drinking, smoking, is not stable in relationships, etc… it’s time for both the parent to sit and analyze. It’s not too late to get your child back and put your family back on track.

FUDOL (fillingupthedash-esoflife) Therapies positively believes that any negative circumstances can be turned into positive. We would help you, be your support while you bring your young one’s back home again.

DARSHA Gandhi Mehta
(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Past Life Regression Therapist; Colour & Aura Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

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Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Preparing for the Real World

I won’t bore you by giving you lecture and advise you on what to do during the exams, after the exams, which college to go, etc, etc..

I know one thing for sure that everyone has the potential strength to become successful and have all the fame and prosperity in life. But, I would definitely want to share and talk about few quality that one might forget when one is in world full of competition and one's survival instinct to the quest of success and prosperity is high.

Integrity (Character):

You might be talented, intelligent, smart, etc and because of that you would also gain success, fame and prosperity. But, the strength to sustain that fame, prosperity and success will be determined by your character.

According to me, one’s character would include the following:

A) Connect with Others and Build Trust:

First and the foremost important thing is how you deal with people whether they are people with equal caliber or below your level or above your caliber. Because of our competitive environment, one tends to forget to respect the people who are working under us or who ‘we think’ are not smart like us…remember never underestimate anyone and even never underestimate yourself. You might have all the ingredients to succeed but, if you do not know how to deal with people, if you can’t respect and love the other person…all your talent, intelligence will go for waste. If you are always looking for an opportunity to criticize the other person and put the other person down…your success will be short – lived.

If you want that your success, fame and wealth should last long – start loving and blessing other people’s success and be happy for the other people, respect every single human being whether they match your caliber or not.

B) Be Oriented Towards Reality and Practicality:

I am not saying reality and practicality as one see’s in this world…cutting each other out for survival, disrespecting others because they don’t match your standards, etc.

Here, what I am talking is : which ever, field you decide to go develop such strong skill in that particular field you become so confident that you no longer care about competition. What is required here is only hard work, passion to become competent in your chosen field, doing what is required to become competent.

Working Hard to become competent will shine you like a gold which is eternal (needs no polishing) in long term.

C) Expect Only The Best:

Expect the best performance from yourself, stretch yourself to perform at your optimum level in important task like academics, career, relationships, etc. Automatically, that will get ingrained in your personality and will reflect where ever you go and whom ever you meet and you would not have to even ask the other person to give you his/her best…it will automatically happen.

Expect the best from yourself & others and you will always get the best things in life.

D) Planning and Organizing:

As much as Spontaneity is required in life…there is planning and organizing required in life too. Some amount of planning is required right from small thing in day to day life like studying for your exams, to managing your extra – curricular activities with your studies to big things in life like planning your finance, organizing your home and office so that your daily work becomes simple and you can enjoy every aspect of life.

Balance between Spontaneity and Planning & Organizing is very important if one have to enjoy life to the fullest.

Hope you take into consideration these soft skills are they as important in one’s life as getting an ‘A’ grade or good percentage in any exams.

Workshops are conducted on a one - to - one basis for Young Adults who are preparing to enter the real world or are having trouble in adjusting to the real world. We guide you for a smooth transition from school to college to work life. Timing of the workshop will be based on the convenience of both the parties.