EGO

                                                                                                                

Have you always misunderstood a person who is telling you the truth about yourself or showing you the mirror but have got attracted towards people or have preferred staying with people who always agree with you ... whether you are on the right track or the wrong track?

Have you been so blind that to hide your mistakes/weaknesses you prefer staying away and condemning that person/situation which might bring you face to face with your weakness?

Have you been so blind in saving yourself from humiliation that you make the other people's life a misery?  

Have you been so used to your comfort zone that you are rejecting all the opportunities of growth?

Have you been so engraved in how life is unfair to you that you forget to see all the things life has given to you?

Have you been surrounded by fear to such an extent that you become rigid about any change happening in the surrounding and just prefer to stay in the old way of living or old patterns of life?

We @FUDOL Therapies believe that, "A Person's EGO can either break him or make him."

We define EGO in 2 ways: A Shallow EGO and A Strong EGO

A Shallow EGO is where a person does not want to see his weakness but, to satisfy his ego he indulges in bullying others, putting other person down to show himself superior, to keep blaming other people/situation/circumstances, he would keep taking credit of any small thing he has done for others, he is comfortable with only those people who are praising him, they fluctuate in their loyalties depending upon who supports him, can change his perspective according to what benefits him, they want control without taking any responsibility, etc.

A Shallow EGO develops in the childhood...when parents keep encouraging their child no matter how incorrectly they behave, when parents always want children to be under their control resulting in making them their handicap where they can't think for themselves and can't self - analyze, never point out their child's mistakes or show their weaknesses as they live in notion that their child can never make any mistakes, where the parents don't nudge a child towards progress or independent thinking and the child is always discouraged to ask questions but always told to obey....few examples why a person with this kind of up - bringing will develop a Shallow EGO.

A Strong EGO is where a person realizes his own weakness and in turn works towards his weaknesses and in turn support others in solving their issues, he takes full responsibilities for his behaviour and takes charge of his life, a person would not keep counting on small things he has done for others because he does not help others for praise but because of the compassion he has in his heart, he takes it positively when someone shows him a mirror, and he has developed that kind of sensibility to recognize people who just praise him or take his side because of their ulterior motives, he has his own stand - which even if no one is supporting it...he will still persuade on it, his first priority will be himself, his family and then he will go and help others, etc.

A Strong EGO develops in childhood where a child is discouraged when he behaves in an inappropriate manner till he learns the other way, his mistakes are being pointed out, his weaknesses are being discussed and together a solution is being found out, in a fight between their child and another child if their child is wrong...the parent wouldn't hesitate to express the same to the child in front of everyone, a parents develop a child's independent thinking and empowers a child in every ways so that he develops quality of inter - dependence, there is no unreasonable demand to obey and opinion of child is always taken into consideration, making him grow within himself by giving responsibility and making the child accountable for those responsibility... few examples why a person with this kind of up - bringing will develop a Strong EGO.

Once these EGO's are developed in childhood it is very difficult to break free from them but again with working hard nothing is impossible as well. If you feel you possessed a Shallow EGO and you feel the need to come out from Shallow Conditioning and Re - Condition yourself to have Strong EGO...we @FUDOL Therapies will always be ready to make this difficult change a reality.

DARSHA Gandhi Mehta

(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Colour & Aura Therapist, Past Life Regression Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

We also do Counseling via. Phone, & Online. 

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