Staying Happy during Life’s Toughest Problem: Thoughts – Part 1

When you going through life's toughest problem...that's the time you need to double your efforts to love yourself, take care of yourself, make it a point to laugh as much as you can, do all the things you love doing and show life that no matter what it throws @ you...you will be happy and you will fight back.

How difficult it is to implement the above statement? Is it so easy to take care of yourself, to love yourself, to be happy, to laugh when life’s throwing the toughest problem at your way?... well yes it’s very difficult but, still achievable.

Usually, when there is a problem with one person....always it’s been attracted by that person’s subconscious thoughts, continuous usage of negative words, and some destructive actions which will attract problems in your life. Here, we will have various parts, the first being Thoughts. Let’s see this in detail:

Thoughts: As a child, our thought process starts developing at an early age, more than outside influence, our thoughts are influenced by our elders and our immediate environment. We usually don’t have control over the thought – process formed at this age. Since, these thought processes are the initial thought – process. These become the Root Thoughts.

If the thought process or the signals given by the immediate environment are: “We cannot buy this particular toy because we cannot afford it” – here the child doesn’t understand what is affording or because the money is less the family can’t buy him a toy. What he gets here is: “I cannot get this toy because I am not good enough”.  Self – worth of the child is gone down. If these incidents keep happening the same way, Root Thought that is planted is...”I am not good enough, that’s why I can’t get good things in life”.  

Similarly, if the thought processes or the signal given by the immediate environment are: “We cannot buy this particular toy today, but we can look into buying it in a few days” – here the child is not denied a toy out rightly nor he has been given the toy immediately and the child doesn’t even end up with a feeling of “I am not good enough”. But, a thought process forms: “I might get what I desire a little late in life, but there is possibility of getting it.” The child’s root thoughts would be to develop patience and persistence for the things he desires.

It is practically impossible to change the immediate environment’s thought process as they have been formed from generations. The problems which you are facing currently are somewhere related to these root thoughts. Being, aware of that is very essential. After being aware of it, you need to accept that the formation of these root thoughts is nobody’s fault, after that you need to have the strong desire to change your root thoughts...to the thoughts which works for you thus, cutting the root thoughts of your lineage and also your future lineage. Note, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to cut any relations with your family members just that their root thoughts will not affect you in your present and future life. You won’t attract the problems from those root thoughts ... as now your root thoughts are different.

Generally, one goes into self - analysis when one is going through a crisis situations. You would want the answers of all the “Whys” then. For seeking those answers we go everywhere, we read self - help books, go to a guru, philosophers, go to a counsellor, attend seminars, suddenly we become religious...all these are the process to becoming aware of your “root thoughts” and an attempt to change it as well. Many people get stuck in the mid – way and the process remains incomplete.    

Here are few pointers which can help you not only seek answers to your Whys but also, fight back ...when life throws @ you some of it’s toughest challenges:  

1) Ask Why’s. Be aware that somewhere your thought is also responsible for the crisis you are facing in the present. Go thought behind the thought. Ask why such thought has occurred till you reach your root thought.      

2)Take Responsibility. Go to the usual process of taking someone’s help, whether a guru, counsellor, philosopher, religion, go to various workshops, read books, etc...but also keep in mind that all these people and things are just part of the process...just guides and angels to, help you, support you ... but, the journey is yours and yours only...so taking the leap of changing your Root Thoughts is only your responsibility.    

3) Change the Thought. If your root thought is, “I am not good enough”. Start observing your thoughts...how you think...sit for 15 minutes with yourself in silence to listen to yourself more clearly. Catch yourself whenever you say, “I cannot afford it”; “it’s nice but, it’s only for rich people”; or “I haven’t proved myself enough to buy such an expensive watch”, etc. Stop the thought process then and there... instead put a positive statement like, “I deserve all things I desire”.

Of course, these are the initial steps and part 2 and 3 will have more of details and a holistic perspective. Our human thoughts are very precious... like you take care of your gold, silver, car, investments, etc., the same way you need to take care of your thoughts, keep doing its maintenance, keep upgrading it.

FUDOL (fillingupthedash-esoflife) Therapies will be your support if you need one to change these Root Thoughts. Write us an email.

DARSHA Gandhi Mehta
(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Past Life Regression Therapist; Colour & Aura Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

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