Everyone seems to be crying about how education is necessary. But, have the educators, the teachers, the politicians, the NGOs realized what price the average family or even higher middle class or for that matter the whole nation will face if we educate our children in our current education system. The Vicious Circle we are in right now…Let’s just see the Future of our next few Generation:
Anyone who is studied in SSC Board, will tell you that they don’t want their children to go to SSC Board. So, now the options are boards like ICSE, CBSE, IGU, etc. Now, these boards are run by private corporations so they are expensive. For example, in cities the average school has fees of around Rs. 55,000/yr + Rs.50,000 deposit without donation. The fee is subject to hike up by around 15% every year.
If you ask a couple from middle and higher middle class: how many children they want to have? The usual answer you would get is: We want 2 children but, financially we can’t even afford one child, even if we both work. So, plan to have only one child. Now, let’s just imagine the plight of a child who does not have sibling and whose mom and dad both are working full time:
Child has no one around when he is going through problems of his own in the school, when he is being bullied, when he is not able to focus, no one to monitor his aggression and channelize it in a more constructive manner, no one to play with him, no one he can call his own, no one to fight with and then be protective about. The Child would not only have no sibling but also, will miss out on one parent always being around him/her. Thus, the insecurity will be double of what the current generation is facing, the feeling of ‘mine’, of being protective of someone, the knowledge that how much ever you fight and tear each other’s hair still you are part of one family and when a outside neighbor comes and fights with your sibling, you will become one - is lost. The commitment of a parent being around the child or setting the core values of family, love, and sacrifices for each other is lost for that child.
When this grows into their vibrant youth, they would be so comfortable with their solitude and be so practical that they would not be comfortable having a committed relationship with any person as they don’t know how to handle a committed relationship as they never had any experience of it. The Adult will not know how to handle fights and control their anger, to let go, to handle the negatives of other individual... as they never have had the practical experience of fighting with their siblings resulting in either breakdown of the adult or losing the control and doing something inappropriate while they encounter fights or get angry at others or run away when they see the negatives in other people. When the nation is attacked by the neighbor they hardly would know how to stick with fellow citizen of India - shoulder to shoulder and protect the fellow Indian brothers if they never had felt protective towards his/her brother or sister or for that matter their parents.
India is known to have adults who know how to persist and endure in the most difficult situations, who knows how to protect and help each other in the most difficult situations no matter how much they must have fought with each other in the name of caste, religion or creed. To let go of the anger, hatred, they know how to forgive other individual because their parents have forgiven them at their negative behaviors and they in turn, have forgiven their siblings.
The First relationship, one has is with his/her parents and siblings and if you don’t know that relationship, it would be very difficult to accept other relationship in your life fully, completely and with full honestly.
Why should our child miss these core values – because our government is not able to provide us with subsidize school of our choice or the school authorities can’t find a way to keep their fee structure low or we citizens of India don’t get up to these nonsense and say ‘Enough is Enough, we are not going to compromise our values and core concepts that make India’s children fit not only emotionally but also give them psychological edge’.
But, complaining is also not the solution, lets come together and find solution to this important problem. Lets not deprive our child of a sibling just because its financially expensive. A sibling is their first real relation where they will learn to be human and it will be their first lesson of ‘how to treat any other human being’.
Anyone who is studied in SSC Board, will tell you that they don’t want their children to go to SSC Board. So, now the options are boards like ICSE, CBSE, IGU, etc. Now, these boards are run by private corporations so they are expensive. For example, in cities the average school has fees of around Rs. 55,000/yr + Rs.50,000 deposit without donation. The fee is subject to hike up by around 15% every year.
If you ask a couple from middle and higher middle class: how many children they want to have? The usual answer you would get is: We want 2 children but, financially we can’t even afford one child, even if we both work. So, plan to have only one child. Now, let’s just imagine the plight of a child who does not have sibling and whose mom and dad both are working full time:
Child has no one around when he is going through problems of his own in the school, when he is being bullied, when he is not able to focus, no one to monitor his aggression and channelize it in a more constructive manner, no one to play with him, no one he can call his own, no one to fight with and then be protective about. The Child would not only have no sibling but also, will miss out on one parent always being around him/her. Thus, the insecurity will be double of what the current generation is facing, the feeling of ‘mine’, of being protective of someone, the knowledge that how much ever you fight and tear each other’s hair still you are part of one family and when a outside neighbor comes and fights with your sibling, you will become one - is lost. The commitment of a parent being around the child or setting the core values of family, love, and sacrifices for each other is lost for that child.
When this grows into their vibrant youth, they would be so comfortable with their solitude and be so practical that they would not be comfortable having a committed relationship with any person as they don’t know how to handle a committed relationship as they never had any experience of it. The Adult will not know how to handle fights and control their anger, to let go, to handle the negatives of other individual... as they never have had the practical experience of fighting with their siblings resulting in either breakdown of the adult or losing the control and doing something inappropriate while they encounter fights or get angry at others or run away when they see the negatives in other people. When the nation is attacked by the neighbor they hardly would know how to stick with fellow citizen of India - shoulder to shoulder and protect the fellow Indian brothers if they never had felt protective towards his/her brother or sister or for that matter their parents.
India is known to have adults who know how to persist and endure in the most difficult situations, who knows how to protect and help each other in the most difficult situations no matter how much they must have fought with each other in the name of caste, religion or creed. To let go of the anger, hatred, they know how to forgive other individual because their parents have forgiven them at their negative behaviors and they in turn, have forgiven their siblings.
The First relationship, one has is with his/her parents and siblings and if you don’t know that relationship, it would be very difficult to accept other relationship in your life fully, completely and with full honestly.
Why should our child miss these core values – because our government is not able to provide us with subsidize school of our choice or the school authorities can’t find a way to keep their fee structure low or we citizens of India don’t get up to these nonsense and say ‘Enough is Enough, we are not going to compromise our values and core concepts that make India’s children fit not only emotionally but also give them psychological edge’.
But, complaining is also not the solution, lets come together and find solution to this important problem. Lets not deprive our child of a sibling just because its financially expensive. A sibling is their first real relation where they will learn to be human and it will be their first lesson of ‘how to treat any other human being’.
DARSHA Gandhi Mehta
(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Past Life Regression Therapist; Colour & Aura Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)
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I never realised this angle is so important in the upbringing of a child. u made me realise a new approach...good one..keep it up!!!
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