When
you are sailing with a companion and the water starts giving you trouble ..and
you want to sail through and fight the battle with water with full force and you are ready
to fight God, Your Fate and Nature for the boat you build it together but the
other person is just isn't interested in together fighting the troubled waters.
No matter how much you try to pull him/her to the boat, you tell him/her that
we will pass this rocky troubled waters... it's just that we both need to do
the right thing and keep the boat going together but, in spite of all those confident
words and rather than trusting the strength of the bond you share together, the
other person's fear over powers him/her and he/she wants to jump into the water
and swim to the shore not thinking about you, not thinking about the strength
of togetherness but, just how to safely reach the shore by himself/herself and not
wanting the burden of you.
Is our resilient power towards hanging on to our close ones or for that matter hanging on to our partner when they are going through the troubled waters become less?
Is
our marriage/relationship reached that level where in first we always think
about ourselves?
How
it is going to benefit us to stay in that relationship and we are out to jump
out of that relationship at first sign of trouble?Is our resilient power towards hanging on to our close ones or for that matter hanging on to our partner when they are going through the troubled waters become less?
Is
thinking about yourself first and you shredding off your shoulders of anything causing
you any inconvenience including your partner's tough times and what comes along
with it...mood swings, irritation, frustration, etc. etc. become OK?
Do
you feel sharing your partner or close ones sorrow or sadness as burdening you,
lessening your growth and career prospects?
Are
we only interested in being safe and calculating and see what we are getting in
that relationship?
Have
we forgotten to acknowledge what the other person has done for us?
Have
we got too scared to sacrifice and compromise for our partner?
Are
we just responsible for our feelings and our partner's feelings don't matter?
Why
has other aspect of marriage/relationship like cooking, house management,
raising kids and bringing up children losing its importance?
Why
for monetary gains couples agree to stay away from each other at the prime of
their marriage life?
Is
our Ego larger than our Hearts now?
Is
marriage just a facade in front of the society now?
Why
more and more people are opting out of this institution of marriage?
Why
not getting married or advising not to get married seemed to be the right thing
to do?
We @FUDOL don't know answers to many of the
above questions but, we know the roots of our relationships/marriage have shaken
badly and we have lost the resilient power to give in a relationship, to hang
on when our partner is going through a tough time, to take responsibility of
each other in a relationship has somewhere gone out of fashion. It is a
powerful wave which is showing no subtlety and will sweep with itself the future
generations to come if we don't stop running and just start enjoy our relationships and having the patience to give our
partners all the love, care, affection, security and concreteness in the
relationship.
DARSHA Gandhi Mehta
(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Colour & Aura Therapist, Past Life Regression Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)
We also do Counseling via. Phone, & Online.
www.fudoltherapies.com, +(91) 9869660362
contact@fudoltherapies.com
