Have you been so blind that to hide your mistakes/weaknesses
you prefer staying away and condemning that person/situation which might bring
you face to face with your weakness?
Have you been so blind in saving yourself from humiliation
that you make the other people's life a misery?
Have you been so used to your comfort zone that you are
rejecting all the opportunities of growth?
Have you been so engraved in how life is unfair to you that
you forget to see all the things life has given to you?
Have you been surrounded by fear to such an extent that you
become rigid about any change happening in the surrounding and just prefer to
stay in the old way of living or old patterns of life?
We @FUDOL Therapies believe that, "A Person's EGO can either break him or make him."
We define EGO in 2 ways: A Shallow EGO and A Strong EGO
A Shallow EGO is
where a person does not want to see his weakness but, to satisfy his ego he
indulges in bullying others, putting other person down to show himself
superior, to keep blaming other people/situation/circumstances, he would keep
taking credit of any small thing he has done for others, he is comfortable with
only those people who are praising him, they fluctuate in their loyalties
depending upon who supports him, can change his perspective according to what
benefits him, they want control without taking any responsibility, etc.
A Shallow EGO develops
in the childhood...when parents keep encouraging their child no matter how
incorrectly they behave, when parents always want children to be under their
control resulting in making them their handicap where they can't think for
themselves and can't self - analyze, never point out their child's mistakes or
show their weaknesses as they live in notion that their child can never make
any mistakes, where the parents don't nudge a child towards progress or
independent thinking and the child is always discouraged to ask questions but
always told to obey....few examples why a person with this kind of up -
bringing will develop a Shallow EGO.
A Strong EGO is
where a person realizes his own weakness and in turn works towards his
weaknesses and in turn support others in solving their issues, he takes full
responsibilities for his behaviour and takes charge of his life, a person would
not keep counting on small things he has done for others because he does not help
others for praise but because of the compassion he has in his heart, he takes
it positively when someone shows him a mirror, and he has developed that kind
of sensibility to recognize people who just praise him or take his side
because of their ulterior motives, he has his own stand - which even if no one
is supporting it...he will still persuade on it, his first priority will be
himself, his family and then he will go and help others, etc.
A Strong EGO
develops in childhood where a child is discouraged when he behaves in an
inappropriate manner till he learns the other way, his mistakes are being
pointed out, his weaknesses are being discussed and together a solution is
being found out, in a fight between their child and another child if their
child is wrong...the parent wouldn't hesitate to express the same to the child
in front of everyone, a parents develop a child's independent thinking and empowers
a child in every ways so that he develops quality of inter - dependence, there
is no unreasonable demand to obey and opinion of child is always taken into
consideration, making him grow within himself by giving responsibility and
making the child accountable for those responsibility... few examples why a
person with this kind of up - bringing will develop a Strong EGO.
Once these EGO's are developed in childhood it is very
difficult to break free from them but again with working hard nothing is
impossible as well. If you feel you possessed a Shallow EGO and you feel the need to come out from Shallow
Conditioning and Re - Condition yourself to have Strong EGO...we @FUDOL Therapies will always be ready to make this
difficult change a reality.
DARSHA Gandhi Mehta
(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Colour & Aura Therapist, Past Life Regression Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)
We also do Counseling via. Phone, & Online.
www.fudoltherapies.com
+(91) 9869660362, contact@fudoltherapies.com 
