Concreteness

                                                                

According to FUDOL Therapies,

“Concreteness is that strength in your character which makes you reliable person and a strong person in your eyes as well as other’s eyes.”

Here, character means the aura you emanate, the trust you generate in other person and the ability to confidently stand by your relationships in all areas of life (relationship with your family, friends, relatives, colleagues, relationship with your work and relationship with your soul).

If you already have that kind of concreteness no need to read any further.

Let’s see the main ingredient on how do we develop concreteness:

The main and basic ingredient to develop concreteness is to: Stop Playing Mind Games With Others / Stop Manipulating Others.

For example: 

A) In a marriage, if you have done a lot of harm to your spouse in some way or the other. But, rather than accepting your mistakes when you come in your senses ... you keep finding faults and play mind games with that person so that the blame shifts from you to your spouse.

B) In your work area, since you want that promotion badly you manipulate the boss to not give promotion to the more deserving colleague of yours just because you need it. In the desperation, you tend to take the other person’s credit and eventually get a promotion.

C) Just because your need to control others is very highly (you are aware of it) rather than doing something about it within yourself, you see to it that you make other people’s life miserable. You become so blind in your quest to control others and the situation that you in the end either start losing your relationships or harming them in big way.

D) When someone comes to you for help and if it would require courage to help that person as your interest might go for a toss. Though, you agree to help but, afterwards you turn the situation against the person who has asked for your help so that your interest is served.

E) You are good in your work but, you start lazing around and start finding short cuts so that you can laze around, you are not sincere about your work and find ‘n’ number of excuses to not do your work properly or reach your potential. Right from “I don’t have to time” to “Procrastination” ...one has all the excuses.

Above are the few examples which will definitely make your character very weak and your auric field will sooner or later reflect it to others.

You cannot cheat the Universe. You can lie to others and yourself for sometimes but, not for long. People might not express it to you but, they will definitely feel it in your auric field.

Manipulation, Putting the blaming on others just to save yourself, being insincere in your work,etc.etc. --- You would say all these things are required to survive in the world. 

These are the things which might look thrilling in short term but has a very harmful effect not only to your character but also, on your soul.

The minute you don’t accept your fault, the minute you start thinking about a lose – win situation, you are no more growing within yourself, you are no more learning things from your problems which universe has given you and you refute its purpose. You would no longer stand by your words, your actions become weaker as you are going against your conscience, your soul’s purpose. Thus, affecting your confidence level big time.

Remember,

Be courageous. If you don’t harm others in any ways, Universe will take care of you, it will throw ample of opportunities, you will grow and learn things, it will open lot of doors.

Take a Commitment only if you can Fulfil it, Give your Word only if you can Stand by it, Help others with a Pure Heart and Unconditionally.

More straight forward you are (here, I don’t mean Be Rude) – More you will be able to stand up for what you believe -  More you will be honest to yourself -  More pure your heart will be – More you will be clear about your thoughts – More your personality will evolve - More you would be yourself – More peacefully you would sleep – More firmly you will stand on your words – More strength your actions would have – More reliable and trustful people will find you – More you will develop that inner strength - More Concreteness (Strength) you will give your character.

You want to gain back concreteness in your self... we @ FUDOL Therapies will be willing to help you and support you with concreteness.  

 DARSHA Gandhi Mehta

(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Colour & Aura Therapist, Past Life Regression Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

We also do Counseling via. Phone, & Online. 

www.fudoltherapies.com

+(91) 9869660362, contact@fudoltherapies.com   

Are You A Puppet?

Becoming a puppet of an influenced person will not allow your mind to grow...

A puppet is someone who blindly follows a person, an idea, a theory without thinking whether what that person says is applicable to his life. Whether an idea or what a theory says, is it helping him in his life path?

How many of us follow our parent, our teachers, our gurus, or an influenced person blindly. How many of us question them ... what they say is right or wrong? How many of us listen to them, analyze what they are saying and then decide whether it’s right for us? How many of us after initial analysis just blindly follow that person and make them our GOD?

You follow your Parent, you obey them blindly.... And many parents insist on doing that.... Please, it’s starts with the parent... don’t influence your child’s mind...don’t control your child’s mind...encourage his asking questions, questioning your way of working, your thought process rather than insisting that because you are an adult they have to follow you blindly. Let them develop their natural self. If a parent do not control their controlling behaviour towards the child...that particular child will always be below his mental age, he will not only have a fear towards authority his whole life...but, will be dysfunction in a lot of areas of life (mentally). Parents please don’t make your child your puppet because of your EGO, your fear of losing control of over your Child, your protectiveness towards your child, your fear that if your child is out of your control he will not take care of you in the future (basically, implies in Indian culture). Trust me, make them independent mentally, physically and financially and your child will not only take care of you in the future but also, thank you for making him a person who has his own mind, who can call a spade a spade without fearing, who can stand on his two feet proudly and can face himself in the mirror.  

Let him fail as many times as he should to learn the lessons of life. Yes, educate the child about the consequence of a particular action but, don’t suppress them. Let them solve their own problems and issues of life...be a support system not their problem solver, let them find their own solutions.

Come out of the clutches of becoming influenced by any influential person... stop being a puppet and getting used by people who are only using you because they crave more power over others and because it satisfies their Ego.

Has it ever happen with you... the person you followed in spite of your instincts not agreeing to it and that person changes his stance whenever it is convenient for him? Have the idea/theory you were following but were not convinced about it but still following it, suddenly became obsolete? And you wished....Why didn’t I follow my Gut Instinct, my Intuition, What I wanted to follow?

Remove that fear of Obedience, fear of always pleasing others, and always looking good in society’s eyes... Once, follow your heart, be yourself ... people will appreciate you and you will do some great service to the society...     As...

Originality can truly create new things in Society...

Following Your Own Path And Not Someone Else’s...Will Rejuvenate Human Compassion and Love.

DARSHA Gandhi Mehta

(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Colour & Aura Therapist, Past Life Regression Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

We also do Counseling via. Phone, & Online. 

www.fudoltherapies.com

+(91) 9869660362, contact@fudoltherapies.com   

Bring It On!!!

For Some People life’s challenges are because of their past karma’s;

For Some People life’s challenges are the way their life (destiny) is written;

For Some people life’s challenges are because of what others have done and not done for them;

FUDOL Therapies say,

When Life can’t stop throwing challenges at you...

            You roll up your selves, with a Big Laugh, Tell Life to:   BRING IT ON...

             

None of the “me victim” attitude will help you to solve the problem +

This attitude will make you vulnerable and make you susceptible to lot of low life activity +

You won’t Enjoy & Learn & Grow from solving the challenges life is throwing at you +

Rather than developing more vitality & energy in you, you would start growing old because of that attitude.

Yes... No denying you will sometimes pity yourself, have regrets, cry, become sad, get angry at self and others, etc. all these emotions are fine... we are humans. But, let’s not blame destiny, unfairness of God towards you, your past karmas... Enjoy your life and its challenges with a big laugh.

Many times there are challenges on all the front...

Many times you will not see any way out...

Those are the times you need to hang on, see your positives, analyze what are those few things that are working for you and make those your strengths and hold on to it.

You want to get depressed, give up, shout, be alone – do all of these things but not more than 2 days... Again, gain strength and keep the Bring It On Attitude. It’s a contest between You and Life...More you will face it with courage, the more Life has to take a step back n give you what you deserve.

Bring It On Attitude is the ‘in attitude’ this season in FUDOL Therapies – need help to develop that attitude...you know where to fix up an appointment.

DARSHA Gandhi Mehta

(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Colour & Aura Therapist, Past Life Regression Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

We also do Counseling via. Phone, & Online. 

www.fudoltherapies.com

+(91) 986966036, contact@fudoltherapies.com   

Have You Been Banking On Wrong People?

You are in your worse times and suddenly you find people around you start disappearing...

Usually, you are surrounded by people... but when the time comes to show their love for you... they become your "cousin", they become your “not so good friend”, etc. etc.

Have You Been Banking On Wrong People?

Never ever trust people who are afraid of society... they will never be able to stay with you in your bad times. They will never be able to give you the right advice in regards to your growth. They will never be able to be your rock in your worse times as their fear of society is so high. As their need to look good in society and in others eyes is so important that... they will not even be aware of how unconsciously they hurt you in your worse times. How they will manipulate the situation, how they become inhuman, how they forget the relationship you shared with them, how you cease to exist when their social status is at stake, their fear of society consumes them so much that they don’t even acknowledge that the worse times of yours might be because you sacrificed for them. 

If you want to have reliable people in your worse times then have the courage to have people who care a penny about society, who have the courage to break the rules of society and form their own, who have the courage to tell a spade a spade, who in spite of social repercussion can tell you what’s good for your soul’s growth then what will look good in social setting.

In your good times ... these society fearing people will be the ones around you...don’t get carried away by their artificial attachments as when it will be their turn to show their metal’s worth ... they will say statements like, “we were never that close”, “ohho, you aren’t the same person I knew”, “you shouldn’t do a particular thing or behave in a particular manner” – (because it spoils their social image).

Only a person who loves himself and understands God’s way can give you right advice in catch 22 situation of your life and worse times of your life – Trust them... Have more of these kind of people around you in your all the times as they are the best people not only in your good times but also in your bad times.

They have strong character to not only tell you where you going wrong but also stand besides you when you might have to do things which are not approved by the society. They will only judge your act purely on the basis of your soul’s requirement at that time and your soul’s growth. They can be blunt, rude, will love you and accept you fully. “selfish” and “self – centered”  in society fearing people’s eyes, sometimes anti – social, rebel... but, much more reliable then people who are sweet, diplomatic, makes you feel good by false appreciation, and are society fearing – Be Aware.

Having said that... pity people who are society fearing than blaming them... as they are consumed by fear... they need our compassion and not hatred.

Need support based on your soul’s growth ... not on the basis of any kind of fear... contact us on fillupthedashesoflife@gmail.com

DARSHA Gandhi Mehta

(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Colour & Aura Therapist, Past Life Regression Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)
We also do Counseling via. Phone, & Online. 

www.fudoltherapies.com

+(91) 9869660362, contact@fudoltherapies.com   

Get Healed /Heal Yourself

Many times when Life’s challenges become unbearable and you aren't able to see any silver lining at the end of the tunnel  – the challenge is giving you a lot of pain, lot of heart ache, when you think, you haven't been treated with 'JUST' by life, society, closed ones and yourself.

When you have been facing Heart Aches like – 
Abuse (physical, emotional, mental); 
Unhappy Marriage; 
Suicide by Loved One; 
Addiction of Substance; 
Not Been Able to Have A Child; 
Born Orphan; 
Losing Loved Ones; etc.

There is a lot of Anger shimmering, Life has become a mess, There is a lot of bitterness, sometimes you don’t know on whom. 

You think if you don’t become a parent – it’s the end of the world; 
You want to die of guilt because your close ones took his/her own life; 
You lose sight of what is the future of your life as you make the addicted substance your life; 
You feel permanently damaged by the abuse you have met with; 
You don’t know how would you live without your close ones; You feel you will never be able learn to love as you have never had the biggest form of love i.e  Parental Love. 
And many more such heart aches...

Your tears do not stop seeing people around you have situations/people for which your heart aches. 
Your heart aches with emotional pain - which is equally unbearable. 
You feel out of place where ever you go – you feel you don’t fit in.
You don’t have any normal conversation to talk to. 
You feel lost in your heart. 
You snap at anyone who remotely also tires to stand by you. You feel life has no value. 
You don’t know whether you can anytime overcome this tremendous pain – STOP Yourself From This Thoughts.

You need to Heal Yourself from these Heart ache, from the pain. 

Only way you can heal yourself from these Heart Ache is by GIVING. I know it’s very difficult to give when you yourself feel empty...But, START GIVING.

Give a lot of love to children without parent, 
Become a parent to an orphan, 
Stop youngsters in getting into any form of addiction, 
Counsel young couples who are getting into marriage, Volunteer for suicide helpline, 
Have the courage to get close to someone else. 

No counselor can counsel on these issues, as much as the person who has gone through the problem.

Basically, GIVE in the challenges of life where you have pain rather than running away from that issue. 
Agree, it is difficult but, that’s the way to HEAL any Heart Ache. 
No amount of diversion in the form of work, other social cause might heal you fully.

Get Back Your Lost Inner Love (Inner Confidence)

Get Back Your Lost Light (Inner Creative, Faith in Yourself)

Get Back Your Lost Laughter (Inner Happiness, Fun)

No Situation, No Problems are bigger than your Inner Love! Light! Laughter!

You Know Where to contact us if you want to heal your Heart Aches.

DARSHA Gandhi Mehta

(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Colour & Aura Therapist, Past Life Regression Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

we also do Online & Phone Counseling. To know more visit us:  
www.fudoltherapies.com; 
+(91) 9869660362, contact@fudoltherapies.com

   

   

Justice

Fight against Injustice for the Greater Good of the Society,

Fight for the Bigger Truth then only for your own Truths,

Fight for the overall Progress of the Society then only for your Progress.

Injustice are of 2 types: One done by God/Universe and Second done by living beings to each other.

When some injustice happens to us instead of forgiving the person who has incurred that injustice we keep living in the anger of that injustice. When we are not forgiving for the injustice done to us – the anger, hatred, pain and hurt consumes us and in turn destroys us. This vindictive behaviour rather than harming the person who has done injustice to us would in turn harm us in a big way.

Once you forgive that person ... you release all the anger, hurt, and pain out of your psyche.

By forgiving the person who has done the injustice ...I don’t mean that you tolerate the injustice being done. NO ... the person who tolerates injustice is a bigger sinner then the person who does it.

The released energy gives you the strength to make yourselves strong. Forgiveness will help you release the energy of negative emotions (pain, hurt, anger, etc.) which in turn will strengthen your inner power to fight against the injustice done not only to you but also the injustice done to others in a more constructive way.

Releasing negative energy through Forgiveness will also prevent you to pass on the injustice done to you to others unconsciously. It will help you to fight, out of the place of love, for yourselves, and good of our society rather than out of ego and revenge.

Forgiveness will help you, not to develop vindictive behaviour in your aura and positively find solutions to such injustice through constructive ways and look for solutions from a broad perspective.

Following are the things you could do when such injustice happens with you and you are left with negative emotions like anger, hatred, fear, etc.: 

a) Remove the negative emotions and feelings like, “Why Me?”; “Poor Me”; “It’s My Karmas”; “I might have done something bad”; etc. Take help of a counsellor, a friend or a trusted one. Accept the situation. 

b) There are chances you might get low on self – confidence, self – love, self – esteem. So start giving yourselves special attention. 

c) In this phase, one should be away from people whom you think have always been criticizing you, would put you down at every opportunity. Instead, be with people who will help you smile, laugh and be positive force in your life. It’s a MUST. 

d) Once you have build your strength back, once your negative thoughts stop over – powering you – take action against the injustice done to you – not by taking any revenge but, by finding a way out of the injustice not only for you but also for others. Fight if you have to, but for the greater good.

Revenge and Vindictive Behaviour towards the person who have harmed us is never the correct way to get justice – one would always end up feeling like a loser.

Forgiveness, Positivity and Loving Behaviour towards the person and towards the “Injustice Issue” would make you not only the winner but also, would make you strong and more capable to fight negativity inside you.

Need help to reach that stage of forgiveness ...Contact us @FUDOL Therapies.

DARSHA Gandhi Mehta
(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Past Life Regression Therapist; Colour & Aura Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

We Do Online & Phone Counselling Sessions

www.fudoltherapies.com

+(91) 9869660362; contact@fudoltherapies.com