When you going through life's toughest
problem...that's the time you need to double your efforts to love yourself,
take care of yourself, make it a point to laugh as much as you can, do all the
things you love doing and show life that no matter what it throws @ you...you
will be happy and you will fight back.
How difficult it is to
implement the above statement? Is it so easy to take care of yourself, to love
yourself, to be happy, to laugh when life’s throwing the toughest problem at
your way?... well yes it’s very difficult but, still achievable.
Usually, when there is a
problem with one person....always it’s been attracted by that person’s
subconscious thoughts, continuous usage of negative words, and some destructive
actions which will attract problems in your life. Here, we will have various
parts, the first being Thoughts. Let’s see this in detail:
Thoughts: As a child, our thought process starts developing at an
early age, more than outside influence, our thoughts are influenced by our elders
and our immediate environment. We usually don’t have control over the thought –
process formed at this age. Since, these thought processes are the initial
thought – process. These become the Root Thoughts.
If the thought process or
the signals given by the immediate environment are: “We cannot buy this
particular toy because we cannot afford it” – here the child doesn’t understand
what is affording or because the money is less the family can’t buy him a toy. What
he gets here is: “I cannot get this toy because I am not good enough”. Self – worth of the child is gone down. If
these incidents keep happening the same way, Root Thought that is planted is...”I
am not good enough, that’s why I can’t get good things in life”.
Similarly, if the thought
processes or the signal given by the immediate environment are: “We cannot buy
this particular toy today, but we can look into buying it in a few days” – here
the child is not denied a toy out rightly nor he has been given the toy
immediately and the child doesn’t even end up with a feeling of “I am not good
enough”. But, a thought process forms: “I might get what I desire a little late
in life, but there is possibility of getting it.” The child’s root thoughts
would be to develop patience and persistence for the things he desires.
It is practically
impossible to change the immediate environment’s thought process as they have been
formed from generations. The problems which you are facing currently are
somewhere related to these root thoughts. Being, aware of that is very
essential. After being aware of it, you need to accept that the formation of
these root thoughts is nobody’s fault, after that you need to have the strong
desire to change your root thoughts...to the thoughts which works for you thus,
cutting the root thoughts of your lineage and also your future lineage. Note,
that doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to cut any relations with your
family members just that their root thoughts will not affect you in your
present and future life. You won’t attract the problems from those root
thoughts ... as now your root thoughts are different.
Generally, one goes into
self - analysis when one is going through a crisis situations. You would want
the answers of all the “Whys” then. For seeking those answers we go everywhere,
we read self - help books, go to a guru, philosophers, go to a counsellor,
attend seminars, suddenly we become religious...all these are the process to
becoming aware of your “root thoughts” and an attempt to change it as well. Many
people get stuck in the mid – way and the process remains incomplete.
Here are few pointers
which can help you not only seek answers to your Whys but also, fight back
...when life throws @ you some of it’s toughest challenges:
1) Ask Why’s. Be aware that somewhere your thought is also
responsible for the crisis you are facing in the present. Go thought behind the
thought. Ask why such thought has occurred till you reach your root thought.
2)Take
Responsibility. Go to the
usual process of taking someone’s help, whether a guru, counsellor,
philosopher, religion, go to various workshops, read books, etc...but also keep
in mind that all these people and things are just part of the process...just
guides and angels to, help you, support you ... but, the journey is yours and
yours only...so taking the leap of changing your Root Thoughts is only your
responsibility.
3) Change
the Thought. If your root
thought is, “I am not good enough”. Start observing your thoughts...how you
think...sit for 15 minutes with yourself in silence to listen to yourself more
clearly. Catch yourself whenever you say, “I cannot afford it”; “it’s nice but,
it’s only for rich people”; or “I haven’t proved myself enough to buy such an
expensive watch”, etc. Stop the thought process then and there... instead put a
positive statement like, “I deserve all things I desire”.
Of course,
these are the initial steps and part 2 and 3 will have more of details and a holistic
perspective. Our human thoughts are very precious... like you take care of your
gold, silver, car, investments, etc., the same way you need to take care of
your thoughts, keep doing its maintenance, keep upgrading it.
FUDOL (fillingupthedash-esoflife) Therapies will be your support if you need one to change these Root Thoughts. Write us an
email.
DARSHA Gandhi Mehta
(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Past Life Regression Therapist; Colour & Aura Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)
(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Past Life Regression Therapist; Colour & Aura Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)
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