Increase your strength from a rock to that of a mountain
when a problem starts over powering you...
Challenges are there in everyone’s life...and all of us have
the capability, potential and strength to solve the challenges in our life.
Till challenges get endured, handled and solved...it makes one grow, and instills confidence in oneself.
The challenge turns into a problem when it is persisted for
a long time, when you feel stuck, when you are not able to handle it, when it
is continuously hurting you, when it is hampering your growth, your behaviour with people around you is changing, when you are not able to be yourself, when you
break down every second day, when you have tried being aggressive, assertive,
and submissive towards the challenge but, to vain.
Since, all of us have an inbuilt resilient power within
us... we can bounce back from the stress of facing a particular challenge. But,
when the challenge is persistent...one of the two things can happen: a)
Resilient power gets exhausted or b) Resilient power strengthens.
When the resilient power gets exhausted that would result in
an emotional and/or physical breakdown, chances of depression, suicidal feelings,
or any other form of mental illness increases.
There are some people around you who can handle as many
problems as life throws at them. Many times, one wonders what makes their
resilient power stronger than yours. Let’s have a look:
Resilient Power strengthens if you have lived your childhood
to its fullest i.e. you have played as much as you can, you have taken small to
big challenges – immaterial whether you were able to solve that challenge or
not, if as a child you had discovered certain talent, or used to play some
sports, used to have friends, had got love, affection, constructive criticism,
from elders around you...usually you will have a strong resilient strength as
an adult. First 5 to 7 years of a child’s life, the child develops a foundation
for a lot of things including the resilient power within themselves i.e.
bouncing back from any failure, rejection, perseverance in face of a long
unsolved problem, etc.
It helps if one’s childhood is good but, again it doesn’t
mean that resilient power cannot be strengthen. Here are few ways resilient
power can be strengthen:
When you are facing a certain problem... there are times
your inner voice/ angels/god/subconscious will send you hints, signals, either
to face that specific problem or either to change your stance or behaviour to
that particular problem, or change a particular characteristic/ trait in you.
But, we are so cluttered with pain, advices, expectations, “why me’s” that we don’t
tend to listen to these small voices which we call intuition. Few ways we can
remove the clutter so that we listen to our inner voices:
a) First and foremost remove your house clutter...
that’s your environmental clutter. Remove all the unwanted things from your
house.
b) Then remove all the emotional clutter... give
yourself 2 days, isolate yourself and just filter all your thoughts. One way to
do that is by writing down what you feeling i.e. any hurt, pain, any
frustration. Or start to drawing - colour/paint. Do it for 2 days and see the
clutter clear for you. If not try for another 2 days.
c) Intuitions will keep coming on and off once the
clutter is cleared from your mind and environment. Many times, since it’s a back
thought one doesn’t seem to remember it. So keep a dairy and note down any
intuit you receive.
There will be times
especially when you are dealing with problems which have lasted for a long time
in your life that you will suffer, many times the problem will hit you in the
stomach, many times you would feel that you can’t go forward till this problem
gets solved. In short, the problem will overpower you, will not let you
function well. Below is the technique you can try to make yourself stronger
than the problem:
a) Relax your body. Take 3 deep breaths and slowly,
one by one... release the problem from your body right from your toe muscle to
your thigh muscle to your facial muscle. For Example, the problem is Anxiety:
After relaxing the body...tell your toe muscle to release all the anxiety from
every cell of that part . Similarly, with your feet, legs, thigh, stomach,
chest, fingers, hand, shoulders, neck, facial and head muscle. Do this exercise daily...initially, twice in a day and after 10 days once a day.
This above techniques will help you 10x your strength i.e. If
before you were strong as a rock, you will gain 10 times strength and stand like
a mountain when your problems seem to be overwhelming and overpowering you.
You want personalized attention on your long persistent
problem and you want someone to talk to about your problem... then, you know
how to contact FUDOL Therapies.
DARSHA Gandhi Mehta
(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Past Life Regression Therapist; Colour & Aura Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)
We Do Online & Phone Counselling Sessions
+(91) 9869660362; contact@fudoltherapies.com
