Is Abuse/Molestation/Rape a form of suppressed lust/sexual desires? Or A false attempt to feel powerful?
Does Abuse/Molestation/Rape happen because the beauty is shown in public? Or The devil inside human being wants
to destroy anything which is beautiful?
Does Abuse/Molestation/Rape happen because it’s a form of entertainment for
the culprit? Or There is so much
over – flow of bitterness within that person that it’s a way of passing the
bitterness to the other person?
Right from ancient days India has seen abuse, molestation, rape
and other crimes happening against women. Why does a society like India where
we pray to Goddess Lakshmi, Saraswati and Durga... have to wait for a “Maya” or “Damini/ Nirabhaya” to
happen. It’s a well known fact, that Delhi has the highest amount of
molestation cases. Even most part of the country girls/women can’t go out in
the night. Why haven’t we sprung into action the moment we realized these facts.
I want to highlight a point here... that woman are not the
only victims going through such crimes. Men equally has the risk of being a
victim of abuse/molestation/rape. Sad part is such crime against men are not
even taken into serious consideration.
Right now, the global community is in a dark tunnel from
where we can see no light for any permanent solution to Abuse/Molestation/Rape. Giving a capital
punishment is necessary to instill fear and it will reduce Abuse/Molestation/Rape to a certain
extend but it is not going to uproot the problem.
Let’s see few ways by which there are chances we could
uproot the problem of Abuse/Molestation/Rape...
1) Rape is one of the ways the miscreant wants to
gain control. Overpowering the other person will definitely make him/her feel
more powerful and in control for a while. Now, why there is so much need for
control...there could be various reasons and one of the main reason is Severe
Child Sexual/Physical Abuse. Abuse of any kind makes a child feel out of
control, powerless and helpless. But, Severe Child Sexual/Physical Abuse
impacts the psyche of a child deeply. Not everyone who is a victim of Abuse
grows up and ends up Abusing/Molesting/Rapes the other human being. But, the
chances are still high. The Child who has gone through any kind of Abuse should undergo some sessions of psychotherapy and counselling so that he/she can stitch himself/herself back and could understand that "It wasn't his/her fault", "What happened was a crime".
2) Children have to be taught how to respect their
bodies. Once they start respecting their bodies...they will automatically
respect other people’s bodies. Accepting and understanding one’s body, and it’s
desire will help in understanding that these needs and desires of the body is
normal for every human being irrespective of the gender. Appreciating and
Nourishing one’s body is very important but, in a constructive way.
3) Parents have to respect each other. For ex: if a
boy sees that his mother is never respected in the family, always ridiculed,
mocked and condemned at... he would follow the same behaviour when he grows up with
other females inside as well as outside the house. Parents are the only one
with whom a child will learn his initial lessons of respecting and accepting
every human being.
4) We as society should be open about people suffering from any kind of sexual disorder/ dysfunction/ illness. Openness is
required so that person suffering from it can talk and discuss about it freely.
He/she should not feel less masculine/feminine just because he/she has some kind of
sexual disorder.
I understand that all these above points are difficult to
achieve. But, our schools, our doctors, our pre – child/pregnancy programs,
etc. can educate and create awareness among people. It’s a cycle we need to
break and it will take time, effort and lot of awareness but again not
impossible.
Love and Respect...if these 2 become the pillar and the
foundation on which a child grows up... then only this problem of
abuse/molestation/rape has any chance of uprooting itself from the psyche of us
humans.
If you are a victim of Abuse/Molestation/Rape... FUDOL
Therapies (Fillingupthedash-esoflife) will be your backbone while you stitch
yourself back.
DARSHA Gandhi Mehta
(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Past Life Regression Therapist; Colour & Aura Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)
(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Past Life Regression Therapist; Colour & Aura Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)
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