Real Education

You can be literate but not necessarily educated...

You could be educated but not necessarily literate...

By developing different kinds of skills, by polishing your talents, by honing your intellect you can get literate and learn how to earn money ... but that isn't necessarily called Education.

We can be called Educated  when we learn the art of introspection, when we go on the ground and work, when we form relationships, when we bear the pain of break ups; when we dare to dream and we fail and again dare to dream, when our hearts have enough compassion for other living beings, when we encounter real practical difficulties and come out of it, when we accept ours and others limitations, and  when we make our every experience as an opportunity to be wise.

Yes, Literacy Institution are important but along with that one needs to be taught how to find its way out in practical life by giving lot of emphasis on soft yet very powerful skills like making the children do day - to - day activities, make them value relationships, empowering them to handle relationships efficiently, by teaching them how to minimize their stress level, how to not get carried away in the rat race, teach them that every individual is unique and different, teach them to respect themselves and others equally, build their strong SELF's, teach them how to handle bullies, teach them that it's OK to fail and teach them how to grow from failures.

Yes, Literacy Institution indirectly does teach the above soft skills but not consciously and not everyone learns. Why not make these literacy institution in real sense Educational Institution where these soft skills are given its due importance.

Our children spent nearly 20 years of their life getting literate ...first finishing their pre - school, nursery, schooling of 10 years, college 2 years, graduation 3 years, post graduation 2 years.

How many students when they come out can be called educated and have gained some wisdom?
How many students are confident to handle relationships, failures of life, have high self - image to dream and fulfill those dreams?
How many students know how to extract wisdom out of every experience?

Some children might require special attention in some things or in a particular area say for example: Self - Confidence. Isn't it every child's right to get its due attention? Everyone knows there is shortage of teachers, good staff, etc. etc. Can't we think out of the box. There has to be answer to all these obstacles.

There are schools that have started focusing on soft skills. Schools have started giving importance to every student. Teachers are giving due attention to each child... but How many such schools exist? and How many parent can afford such school's fees?

It's high time Education Institution become...

A Center to Build Strong Self - Image of a Child,

A Platform where molding of a Child's Mind - Heart - Soul Happens,
Where Emotional - Psychological - Physical - Mental - Spiritual Enhancement Happens.

DARSHA Gandhi Mehta

(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Colour & Aura Therapist, Past Life Regression Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

We also do Counseling via. Phone, & Online. 

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Secured and Protected

Has it happen to you anytime that a close one you know is incurred injustice and to soothe his pain that person has to do certain things which might be unacceptable in our society. And you want to stand by that person because you know he is right but, due to what others will think about you, or due to societal backlash at you or societal isolation you are afraid to stand by that person, you are not able to vocally support that person, and you are unable to protect that person who is your closed ones.

Having been gone through a phase where I went in a similar situation where to soothe the injustice that has happened to me... I had to do things which weren't "OK" with the society. And lot of my closed ones were silently supporting me but never vocal about it. Though, I always took it as a sign of adulthood that I am big enough to solve my own issues. I wasn't able to notice the insecurity lurking at the back of my mind until yesterday. Yesterday, out of the blue my 79 year old grandmother without thinking about the consequences stood in my defense and suddenly all my mind tension was dissolved. I felt happy from within, my sense of security increased ten folds and I felt relaxed and understood by the people that matters.

There are a lot of close ones around us who are struggling with injustice in their Home - Work - Societal - Personal front and they are compelled to go against societal "norms" or "rules" or what is considered "right" by the society just to protect their sanity. If you genuinely agree to what they are doing is right... do be vocal about it and for heaven sake don't keep quiet. If you can't stand by them and protect them its fine. But, be vocal that you understand that person's need to do this.

Three Things will happen:
A) You will be encouraging what you feel is Right. Immense Inner Satisfaction.

B) You will able to release that person from any minutest form of guilt he has of doing something against the societal norms (as it is deep in our system to comply to the rights n wrongs of the society).

C) By being vocal,  you are reducing the chances of your closed one getting into any kind of depression due to loneliness, social isolation, condemnation faced, etc.

Same goes for your Children...
When you think your child or any other child in the family are saying/doing/thinking the right thing but, it might go against the system or against the family rituals...at least listen to them, to their points, and even if you can't do anything about it... make them know that you agree to what their points are but, you aren't able to do anything about it because of whatever your reasons.
Honesty is the best policy with children as children will love you for at least listening to them and being vocally supportive of them. You will become their Best Friend for life and it will reduced their rebellion streak... in turn, it will reduce the risk of any kind of addiction, suicides risk and isolation.

If possible...do stand for your children if you feel they are right in what they are thinking/saying/doing. It will be the highest security you can instill in your children. They will know that no matter what the situation/age/circumstances my closed ones will always be there to protect me. Spiritually if we see, once this security is instilled in a child's psyche he/she in future will also start attracting people who will stand by them in crisis. Thus, creating secured adults and adults who are able to trust other human beings - thus, avoiding paranoid schizophrenia and making our world a better place to live.

There are lot of factors which will contribute to an secured adult...but atleast we can start from the things which are in our hands.

Secured Adults is the Best Gift we can Give our Creator.

DARSHA Gandhi Mehta

(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Colour & Aura Therapist, Past Life Regression Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

We also do Counseling via. Phone, & Online. 

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Roots

My Teacher used to tell me, “Anyone can succeed by pulling other people down, it takes character to succeed by uplifting others along with you.”

You have succeeded – You have gone down – You have again taken a leap of success – Again, you have gone down.

There are a few people who will keep growing continuously in their financial position through generations to come.

There are a lot of people who find it very difficult to sustain success. I am talking success in terms of financial standing and achieving one’s ambition. 

When success does not stay in your life or there is no steady growth. That’s the time one needs to check one’s Roots’.

We @FUDOL Therapy define Roots as anything you have been given on your birth like your Family, Society, Mother Land, Humanity & Nature.

Ask Questions Like:

Have you taken along all your family members in your success story?

Have you in the process of being successful, done a lot of unfairness to any of your family member like: condemned or mocked or harmed your “weaker” family member; being insensitive to your sibling or any member of your family who is not as successful as you are? 

Have you harmed your society and your Mother Land for your success?

Have you taken undue advantage of people working under you?

Have you behaved badly with the women of your house – forgetting their role in your success?

Has Mother Nature played price for your success?

Have you forgotten that behind your success there are a lot of people’s support, prayers and help?

These above questions will help you answer whether you have taken care of your roots while succeeding. 

If you also uplift your roots along with uplifting yourself then, surely the foundation of your success will be far more stronger and thus the growth and sustainability.

If you want us to assist you in strengthening your Roots then book an appointment.

DARSHA Gandhi Mehta

(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Colour & Aura Therapist, Past Life Regression Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

We also do Counseling via. Phone, & Online. 

www.fudoltherapies.com

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Dusk of Jainism (Stanakvasi Sect)

Jainism is an ancient religion from India that teaches that the way to liberation and bliss – is to live life of harmlessness and renunciation. The aim of Jainism is to achieve liberation of soul. Stanakvasi is a sect of Jainism that believes that soul is nirakar “without any form”, and hence do not pray to any statue. Stanak is a place where stanakvasi’s male saints called as, “Maharaj Saheb” and female Saint “MahaSatiji” resides (though, both can’t live in one stanak together). When a person becomes a Saint in Stanakvasi or takes Diksha – they renounce the material world and follow the path of Jainism which would include: Ahimsa (non – violent), Satya (truthfulness), Asteya (non stealing), Aparigraha (non acquisition), and Brahmacharya (chaste living). They are trained before they become Saint to follow and preach these 5 basic vows. Stanak is handled and managed by Shravaks – devotees of Jainism to take care of Saints.     

Recently, one of the biggest Stanak’s in India went through its darkest phase. All 5 vows were broken. Ego’s, Anger, Parigrah, Asatya, etc were seen at its peak. It saddens me to see the state of Jainism – no religion should get degraded to such a level.

But, on a 2^nd thought, this degradation has been happening for a long time now. What happened @ the largest stanak of Jain was quite inevitable.

If the first time saints entered the management of stanaks – it should have been stopped.

If small changes would have been accepted by the rigid but, good intent shravaks then, perhaps today Jainism’s protection would not have gone to ignorant shravaks.

If we would not have cut ourselves from the Roots of Hinduism...Jainism would have been still firmly rooted.

If we would have shown that maturity and strictness to not let a 5 year old or 16 year old take Diksha and become a Saint -  then probably Jainism would have Saints who understand its principles to the core and correctly. 

If only the scriptures were translated in English @ the right time so that the Youths would not digress from the core and traditional Jainism.

If only the emphasis was given more to reducing anger, greed, hatred in oneself rather then fasting and other rituals – then the dusk of Jainism would not have been inevitable.

With all the ‘If’s’ and ‘But’s’ in my mind ...I still think dusk for Stanakvasi Jain was inevitable as... whenever, ripples of change is ignored/suppressed/mocked at it will become an uncontrollable force which will come alongwith, big and shallow EGO, Blindness and Greed and has the capacity to shake any virtuous people, religion and situation.

Ending this Blog with a belief that again virtuous generations who value the core principles of Jainism would be born and Stanakvasi Jain religion will see its dawn and again reach to its heights of Glory, Sanity and Purity.

DARSHA Gandhi Mehta

(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Colour & Aura Therapist, Past Life Regression Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

We also do Counseling via. Phone, & Online. 

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Concreteness

                                                                

According to FUDOL Therapies,

“Concreteness is that strength in your character which makes you reliable person and a strong person in your eyes as well as other’s eyes.”

Here, character means the aura you emanate, the trust you generate in other person and the ability to confidently stand by your relationships in all areas of life (relationship with your family, friends, relatives, colleagues, relationship with your work and relationship with your soul).

If you already have that kind of concreteness no need to read any further.

Let’s see the main ingredient on how do we develop concreteness:

The main and basic ingredient to develop concreteness is to: Stop Playing Mind Games With Others / Stop Manipulating Others.

For example: 

A) In a marriage, if you have done a lot of harm to your spouse in some way or the other. But, rather than accepting your mistakes when you come in your senses ... you keep finding faults and play mind games with that person so that the blame shifts from you to your spouse.

B) In your work area, since you want that promotion badly you manipulate the boss to not give promotion to the more deserving colleague of yours just because you need it. In the desperation, you tend to take the other person’s credit and eventually get a promotion.

C) Just because your need to control others is very highly (you are aware of it) rather than doing something about it within yourself, you see to it that you make other people’s life miserable. You become so blind in your quest to control others and the situation that you in the end either start losing your relationships or harming them in big way.

D) When someone comes to you for help and if it would require courage to help that person as your interest might go for a toss. Though, you agree to help but, afterwards you turn the situation against the person who has asked for your help so that your interest is served.

E) You are good in your work but, you start lazing around and start finding short cuts so that you can laze around, you are not sincere about your work and find ‘n’ number of excuses to not do your work properly or reach your potential. Right from “I don’t have to time” to “Procrastination” ...one has all the excuses.

Above are the few examples which will definitely make your character very weak and your auric field will sooner or later reflect it to others.

You cannot cheat the Universe. You can lie to others and yourself for sometimes but, not for long. People might not express it to you but, they will definitely feel it in your auric field.

Manipulation, Putting the blaming on others just to save yourself, being insincere in your work,etc.etc. --- You would say all these things are required to survive in the world. 

These are the things which might look thrilling in short term but has a very harmful effect not only to your character but also, on your soul.

The minute you don’t accept your fault, the minute you start thinking about a lose – win situation, you are no more growing within yourself, you are no more learning things from your problems which universe has given you and you refute its purpose. You would no longer stand by your words, your actions become weaker as you are going against your conscience, your soul’s purpose. Thus, affecting your confidence level big time.

Remember,

Be courageous. If you don’t harm others in any ways, Universe will take care of you, it will throw ample of opportunities, you will grow and learn things, it will open lot of doors.

Take a Commitment only if you can Fulfil it, Give your Word only if you can Stand by it, Help others with a Pure Heart and Unconditionally.

More straight forward you are (here, I don’t mean Be Rude) – More you will be able to stand up for what you believe -  More you will be honest to yourself -  More pure your heart will be – More you will be clear about your thoughts – More your personality will evolve - More you would be yourself – More peacefully you would sleep – More firmly you will stand on your words – More strength your actions would have – More reliable and trustful people will find you – More you will develop that inner strength - More Concreteness (Strength) you will give your character.

You want to gain back concreteness in your self... we @ FUDOL Therapies will be willing to help you and support you with concreteness.  

 DARSHA Gandhi Mehta

(Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Colour & Aura Therapist, Past Life Regression Therapist, Graphologist, Angel & Crystal Advisor)

We also do Counseling via. Phone, & Online. 

www.fudoltherapies.com

+(91) 9869660362, contact@fudoltherapies.com